It’s the first day of school, the yellow school bus, the car, the minivan, and the lines. It’s the first week of school, the yellow school bus, the car, the minivan, the lines and the homework. It’s the first month of school, the yellow school bus, the car, the minivan, the lines the homework and the extra-curricular activities.
Recently we learned in Crazy Busy, a book by Dr. Edward Hallowell (http://sparkmygenius.com/?cat=22), that ours is a world where parents are overstretched, overbooked and about to snap.
We see incredible mothers at Sparks of Genius, totally dedicated to their children’s well- being. It’s very inspiring. But most of these mothers can do a better job of taking care of themselves.
Mothers and their children benefit from some de-stressing technologies we use it in our business, Sparks of Genius www.sparksofgenius.com.
Two programs come to mind.
One is the emWave® PC Stress Relief System, which will helps parents transform stress and anxiety into vibrant positive energy. You can learn more here.
The other is Journey to the Wild Divine, a unique biofeedback adventure game for mind and body which creates a healthy and beautiful experience of peace and relaxation.
These computer programs teach us how to shift from a negative emotional state to a positive one. Negative emotions, just like frantic multi-taking, shut down the frontal lobes of your brain and cause stress, disorganization and poor decision-making.
In a CrazyBusy world, the #1 rule is to make sure you do what matters most to you. Here’s Dr. Hallowell’s complete list:
1. Make sure you do what matters most to you. Don’t get sidetracked.
2. Create a positive emotional environment where you are.
3. Find your unique rhythm
4. Invest your time wisely
5. Don’t waste time screensucking (computer, TV, video games, blackberry, etc.)
6. Identify and control gemmelsmerch — any force that distracts you from what you ought to be doing, such as telephones, cell phones, TV, radio, email, and, my favorite “the seemingly uncontrollable wanderings of your mind.”
7. Delegate what you don’t like or are not good at if at all possible
8. Slow down
9. Give one task your full attention and stop ineffective multitasking
10. Play
But for CrazyBusy mothers with kids in school, I’d like to keep the list but change the order:
1. Create a positive emotional environment where you are.
2. Make sure you do what matters most to you. Don’t get sidetracked.
3. Delegate what you don’t like or are not good at if at all possible
4. Slow down
5. Play
6. Find your unique rhythm
7. Invest your time wisely
8. Give one task your full attention and stop ineffective multitasking
9. Identify and control gemmelsmerch — any force that distracts you from what you ought to be doing, such as telephones, cell phones, TV, radio, email, and, my favorite “the seemingly uncontrollable wanderings of your mind.”
10. Don’t waste time screensucking (computer, TV, video games, blackberry, etc.)
Don’t like this order or some items on this list? Excellent! Take a few from this list and make your own.
In fact, cut the list in half and focus on one item. What’s yours? Remember to make sure that you do what matters most to you.
Mental exercises alone do not influence our actions, so make a radical positive change in one attitude and each day increase the number of positive actions in the #1 area on your list.
They needn’t be “big” acts. In fact many small acts are much more effective than one “big” act! Be sure to do them with high energy, full focus and real enthusiasm. That way, your improvement will become a habit. Eventually the habit will internalize and become a part of you.
–Dr. Rohn Kessler
September 3rd, 2007 at 6:07 pm
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